9 Things Smart People Never Say in Office Small Talk

9 Things Smart People Never Say in Office Small TalkSocial awareness is an innate talent, but it can also be a skill you can work to build. Find yourself with your foot in your mouth more often than youd like? Dont panic. Just make the effort to be more conscious of what you say from now on, starting with this list of no-nos. As you build your emotional intelligence, youll find social interactions much more fruitful. googletag.cmd.push(function() googletag.display(div-gpt-ad-1467144145037-0) ) 1. You look tired.What someone else hears You look terrible. Even if they have the darkest undereye circles youve ever landseen and look pale and unkempt, its better not to go there. Ask instead if theyre stressed, or if you can do anything for them.2. Wow, youve lost weightWhat they hear You used to be fat. This is a compliment concealing a sucker punch to the self-esteem. Instead try telling someone that they look fantastic, with no comment on their previous state or past or current weight.3 . You were too good for him.What they hear You have terrible taste. Even if this is true, its better to be gentle and not insult someones exor their own judgment. Instead try saying what a catch that person is, and how its their exs loss entirely that the relationship dissolved.4. You always/neverWhen in doubt use I statements. People dont like to be generalized about, particularly in such strong terms. Stick to the facts to keep your interlocutor from getting defensive. Try saying Ive noticed you often do this, or I feel like this is a pattern.5. You look/are .. for your age.Whatever nice thing you were going to say, say it without the for your age part and you should be fine. Tell someone they look great or theyre really strong or vibrant and cut the modifying phrase. It saves you from being condescending and/or just plain rude.6. Like I saidWhat they hear Ugh, I cant believe youre making me repeat myself. Youre not important enough for anyone else to remember everything you said. Just try to convey your point clearly and in a way that someone will remember because it welches worth remembering. And dont punish people for not lingering on your every word.7. Good luck.This is a tough one, because it seems harmless. But it can feel a little sarcastic, even when it isnt meant that way. Next time, try Youre going to do great.8. Its up to you.No one would have asked your opinion if they didnt want it. Dont throw the ball back in their court without giving it. Try stating your opinion and then adding that youd rather defer to their taste in this particular situationor just that you cant decide between two things, or would rather they do the honors. This shows you care more than just saying, whatever and leaving it to them.9. At least I never.Youre not perfect, and saying you never did something worse than what you did isnt going to make anyone feel better. Itll just make you look smug and sorrynotsorry. Instead, just say youre sorry. Owning your mistake is always a good strategy.Try to ban these few phrases from your vocabulary, and see what an impact it can have on your emotional intelligence in a very short period of time.